XCC | CLUB 2025
This course guides men in discovering and embodying the core principles of authentic masculinity. Over twelve structured sessions, participants will explore essential life skills such as emotional intelligence, moral integrity, self-discipline, and relational wisdom, all aimed at helping them live with purpose, fulfillment, and a strong sense of responsibility and connection.
Session 1:
Introduction to the Authentic Man – Who Is He? Where Is He?
January 23rd - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
In this foundational session, we dive into the concept of the "Authentic Man" and explore the problem of the inauthentic man—someone whose words and actions don’t align, leading to a life of emptiness and regret. Together, we'll explore how to avoid this path and begin a journey toward authentic living. This session sets the tone for the year ahead, offering insight and clarity on the transformation you're about to undertake.
Session 2:
Fierce and Tender – Balancing Strength and Vulnerability
February 27th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
True authenticity in a man requires a balance between strength and tenderness. In this session, you'll explore why both are essential for an authentic man to thrive. We’ll discuss the myth of the "one-dimensional" man, and how to embody both the protector and the nurturer. Through reflection and journaling, you’ll evaluate how you can better integrate these two aspects in your life, developing emotional resilience alongside empathy.
Session 3:
Right and Wrong – Developing Moral Clarity
March 27th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
Navigating life’s moral complexities requires a deep sense of clarity. In this session, you’ll cultivate moral humility by understanding the difference between right and wrong in personal and professional contexts. Learn how to balance what you know with what you don’t, and practice decision-making with integrity. Through active reflection, you'll gain clarity on a current moral dilemma in your life and find the confidence to make the right choice.
Session 4:
Sorry and Forgiving – The Power of Humility
April 24th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call & XCC|Scotland 2025
Forgiveness is a cornerstone of emotional health and relational success. In this session, we’ll explore the power of being genuinely sorry and taking responsibility for your mistakes. You’ll also learn how forgiveness can transform both your life and your relationships. Through guided activities, you'll take practical steps toward letting go of resentment and healing old wounds, starting with writing letters to ask for forgiveness and extend grace to others.
Session 5:
Connect and Abandon – The Role of Relationships in a Man’s Life
May 29th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
In this session, we’ll explore the importance of connection, the damage caused by isolation, and how to build healthy, meaningful relationships. You'll learn how to set boundaries that protect you and your growth, while deepening the connections that nourish your journey. You’ll reflect on who in your life brings positivity and who might be holding you back, leaving you with actionable steps to strengthen or step away from key relationships.
Session 6:
Fun and Healthy – Living a Balanced Life
June 26th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
A balanced life requires a mix of fun, physical health, and emotional well-being. This session will teach you how to integrate laughter, joy, and recreation into your daily routine, while maintaining physical fitness and mental clarity. You'll create a "fun and healthy" plan for the next 30 days, setting achievable goals for fitness, hobbies, and relaxation, to support long-term well-being.
Session 7:
First and Last – Success, Money, and Legacy
July 31st - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
In this session, you'll explore how to find the balance between career success, financial stability, and living a life of meaning and purpose. We’ll examine the role of money in achieving your goals and crafting a legacy that goes beyond wealth. By defining your personal values, you'll gain insight into how your professional and financial choices align with your deeper aspirations and legacy.
Session 8:
Sons and Fathers – The Hero's Journey
August 28th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
Masculinity unfolds in stages, and understanding these stages is key to personal growth. In this session, you’ll explore the progression from apprentice to hero to guide. Learn how to "father yourself" before you can mentor others and pass on wisdom to the next generation. Through reflection on your relationship with father figures, you’ll gain a deeper understanding of how to nurture and mentor younger men in your life.
Session 9:
The Hero’s Journey – Moving Beyond Apprenticeship
September 25th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
The Hero’s Journey is a powerful narrative that all men experience in one form or another. This session is designed to help you move from being an apprentice to becoming the hero of your own life. You’ll identify your personal "call to adventure," and learn how to face trials, embrace challenges, and achieve transformation. Through guided reflection, you’ll uncover the obstacles preventing you from stepping into your full potential and discover how to overcome them
Session 10:
Crafting a Legacy of Integrity
October 30th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
Living a life of integrity requires making choices that align with your values and purpose. In this session, you’ll dive into what it truly means to live authentically in the modern world, and how to build a lasting legacy. You’ll gain clarity on how mentorship, service, and community play a role in creating a meaningful impact, and leave with a powerful “legacy letter” to pass down your principles to future generations.
Session 11:
Becoming the Guide – Stepping Into Your Role as a Mentor
November 27th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
Once you’ve reached a level of maturity, it's time to give back. In this session, you’ll learn how to embrace your role as a guide and mentor to others. We’ll explore how to cultivate the wisdom, patience, and humility needed to pass on valuable life lessons. Through reflection, you’ll identify someone you’d like to mentor and develop a practical plan to help them navigate their own journey toward authenticity.
Session 12:
The Full Circle – Integrating the Journey of the Authentic Man
December 18th - 1900-1950
Zoom Video Call
In this final session, we’ll bring everything together and reflect on your transformative journey toward authenticity. We’ll revisit key insights, share progress, and solidify the tools and practices you’ve learned over the past year. You’ll leave with a clear vision of how to continue living with authenticity, purpose, and integrity as you move forward, and how to be the man who inspires others to do the same.
James Ray is a leadership development consultant dedicated to helping individuals realise their full potential.
With expertise in coaching, training, and personal development, he also offers a unique approach by leading large groups on extreme wilderness adventures.
By combining these diverse environments and experiences, James Ray facilitates transformative breakthroughs in human effectiveness, character, and personal growth.